What Makes Ex-Wives (Ex-Husbands) Act This Way?

So, your ex or your spouse's ex seemed normal enough in the beginning...

I mean, there had to be some reason that your perfectly sane husband (or wife) got with this maniac to begin with. Chances are they weren't acting psychotic when the two met, nor during the early stages of their relationship. But at some point, they obviously began to show signs of their unstable behavior and perhaps signs of their hatred for your now husband. Hence, the reason they probably got divorced in the first place. Now, of course you don't want to be the person to blame for such immature behavior, but it is highly likely that because of you, the ex-wife is going freaking ballistic. 

So, I came across a list of reasons why the ex may be acting like she belongs in a psych ward and included my own summary along with them...ENJOY! :) 

 So, let us begin, shall we?

SHEER UNHAPPINESS-
So, she originally wanted him out of the house, she wanted the divorce, she wanted the house, she wanted NOTHING to do with him. She was convinced there were far better men out there who would fawn over her and treat her better and she would be incredibly happy...But, then reality sets in. She's been on the market, dated a number of men who used her and she's probably met several losers who called her out on her craziness. She's single and alone and her ex-husband is happy? That cannot happen, she must make sure that if she isn't happy, he isn't happy either. Case CLOSED!

ATTENTION WHORE-
If you were on her Facebook page you would notice that she always is going on and on about how incredibly difficult her life is and is constantly seeking applause and attention for doing everyday Mommy duties even though every other woman out there is doing the exact same thing. In fact, she will go as far as acting childlike just to get attention from her ex-husband. Everything is always about her! She needs help with something broken in the house, she needs money for gas or clothes or the list can go on and on. She needs, she wants, it is never ending. Eventually, if your husband doesn't start telling her to stop or begins refusing to help her at every moment it will begin to drive a wedge between your relationship...Just what the ex was hoping for! 

EVIL, GREEN, JEALOUSY MONSTER-
Now, watch out for this one...It's the main cause for an ex to truly turn up the viciousness. If you are younger, prettier, or you are married and have had children with your new husband...WATCH IT! The new wife can NEVER outdo the ex-wife. It is like a huge no-no in her world and if you even seem to be one-upping her, she will be on you like white on rice to cause some friction. She could be having regrets about the divorce or maybe she is upset that he actually found happiness with someone other then her. You are now her arch nemesis and should be on guard from here on out if you fit under any or all of the above categories.

THIN LINE BETWEEN LOVE AND HATE-
Perhaps she is still in love with your husband. Chances are they have a history together and now she's realizing how much she misses and how wrong she was about thinking he was so horrible. She may try to make advances towards him (Cybil even invited my husband to stay with her when he was in NY for a custody hearing, of course, if his little girlfriend didn't mind). I actually did, and he made me go with him just so she couldn't try to act like she had done anything with him. If her advances aren't working, she'll resort to just bugging the life out of him. After all, like a child, negative attention is better than no attention at all. 


INSECURITIES-
The biggest one, especially when children are involved is that she may be afraid that their children will actually like you. Heaven forbid, they have a good time or find anything remotely nice about you. To her, they must hate you, and torture you when she doesn't have the chance to. She doesn't want her children to want to spend time with you or worse, ask to live with you and your husband because they like it there. She will resort to even bribing them just to get them to hate you and giving them everything they can ask for so that she is the fun and nice mommy. They will get away with murder with her...If you have seen the movie Step Mom with Julia Roberts you'd know the scenario I'm talking about. It's a tough pill to swallow. 


SHE'S A B*TCH!-
So maybe that is all it is. There is no reason behind it, nor any motives. She has always been and will continue to be a complete and total, b*tch on wheels! Enjoy the ride. Chances are she was always a nut job but your husband was "blinded by love" and soon realized this, much to late, leading to their divorce. 


IF, she is any or all of the above you've got a real issue on your hands. I'm dealing with the Queen "B" right now. My only advice is to seek some professional help...She's going to try to mentally and financially drain you both. 


Onward and upward and shining on!
<3 The Nice Wife