So, for those of you who have been following the blog on it's official facebook page (titled the same as this blog's name), you heard earlier yesterday that "Cybil" had struck once again. I am learning to roll with the punches with the psycho but it still isn't any less frustrating. She has pretty much quit with bugging me at all, most likely because she knows I won't shy away from responding to her nonsense but now only chooses to alienate and send empty threats to my husband. Obviously, this is where her negativity should have been focused all along but of course she chooses to attack anything she can get her little claws into.
"Cybil", who claims that my husband is money hungry and strict with spending; for the past few weeks, has been all about getting money and lots of it. Or maybe I should just say draining, as that is what it actually seems to be. My husband, is very analytical about money and numbers when it comes to our finances so I can understand her point about being strict. This is something I love about my husband though. He can always tell you where money is coming and going at all times and he budgets beyond belief for every detail from the present into retirement. I wouldn't say that he is necessarily money hungry or controlling when it comes to money but he doesn't blow his money and then sit empty-handed wondering where it all went. "Cybil", on the other hand does just that and since she decided their marriage was over and gave him an ultimatum of getting out of what she said was "her" home, she has been without his budgeting services and keeps finding herself in financial jeopardy. Those are her words, not mine. To her, financial jeopardy, is not having cable turned on, having a $400 spending budget for groceries and then another several hundred dollars for eating out and alcohol. Yes, she has an amount of money she puts aside MONTHLY for alcohol consumption. I find it to be rather disturbing but apparently the courts don't see it as an issue, even though she has a long track record of alcohol and drug abuse. Anyways...
"Cybil" has spent the last several weeks griping and complaining to my husband, myself and MY ex-husband about how she is in financial jeopardy, she's about to lose her house, she can't make ends meet and how she is basically starving. To explain the situation in a nut shell...As you might have read in my profile my husband and I recently moved from Texas to San Diego, CA; and earlier this year from New York to Texas. We have been moving pretty much all year so his paycheck consistency has not always been on track when it came to child support payments. The first move was within his company, so child support wasn't an issue and was straightened out within a month's time. Something she was not at all affected by because of lying earlier this year about not receiving cash from him and getting double in child support paid on her account. Needless to say, after that incident he has made sure to pay child support directly to the agency rather then paying her directly.
Our recent move to California was a huge risk on both of our parts as he decided to leave his company's account in Texas because of some disturbing issues within his location, that he felt were morally wrong. Due to his unwillingness to conform to his superior's wants, he felt his job was at risk and we moved...So, we're now looking for new employment. I have recently started working temp jobs for at least one day out of the week and I do freelance writing. Along with the help of family and his best friend we are making ends meet and getting by. We're not living an extravagant lifestyle, but we're happy because of the things we do have. This of course, has financially devastated her. In what way? I honestly don't know. The woman claims to be broke and starving but posts things on facebook about spending hundreds on shopping and going out to dinner and on and on about every few days so clearly she is not suffering.
My husband pays close to $900 in child support and is currently less than a full month behind in support due to his overpayment earlier this year. How this means she is going to lose her house is unclear? It takes a lot of missed house payments to be near losing a home. Her only complaint is that she doesn't have cable...This apparently is serious financial jeopardy. Something that makes me laugh. My husband and I don't have cable either, even when we had the money we found it to be wasteful. We use Netflix and read the news online, that's all we need. But apparently being without cable for "Cybil" means she is suffering and that is just not allowed in her book. When this whole situation became about her and not their daughter is also another question. If you notice, all the suffering is from her, not their daughter. Isn't child support to help support the CHILD. Not give the mother a plush lifestyle. But laws clearly state that child support does not have to be explained in its usage, it just has to be paid.
My husband and her have exchanged e-mails back and forth about him looking for employment. She refuses to believe he has no job and thinks that he is hiding thousands from her that she is rightfully entitled to. He keeps telling her the situation and she keeps responding with the assumption that he MUST be lying and that for this reason she must continue to prod my ex-husband for information about his work life. Why my ex-husband would be concerned or even care to know what my husband does for a living is beyond me. My ex-husband's concerns are with our children and nothing else as he has previously stated so I am guessing she is hoping he will be an inside spy for her. Who knows.
"Cybil's" latest e-mail yesterday was that he was still lying and that if he was going to continue to lie to her about his work situation and when he would be starting his new job she would have to take drastic measures in order to find out what was truly going on. To her, he is either still working for his company or he has rejoined the military. She gave him a few days to give her the information or else! All I could do was laugh. First, he has explained through e-mail at least five times this past month that he has been looking for employment and had some promising prospects but nothing set in stone. Secondly, the military is not an option as she refuses to agree with any custody matters and seeing as he still has joint custody he needs her approval in documentation allowing him to join the armed forces. Obviously, she won't allow that because she doesn't want me to reap any benefits of him being back in the military again. Third, she keeps asking when he'll start his new position...Ummm. Let's see, when he actually lands a job he might be able to tell you that date but seeing as he keeps saying he hasn't, letting you know a date he is going to start a position would be a lie. Well, unless of course he can tell the future.
This whole situation is just humorous. Who does she think he is? A fortune teller? Or better yet, Houdini? Yes, that must be it...He is just going to pull out the thousands he is hiding from his magic hat and fork it over to you. YES, that is exactly what is going to happen. Now, I'm the one sitting here shaking my head. What a tragic mess this woman is. Just tragic. "Cybil" is getting the maximum in child support but assumes the judge will grant her more just because she wants it. She has also gotten her child support since my husband moved out of their home, way before a child support order had been established and he has never argued about paying it. No matter if he struggled to make ends meet on his end or not, he has just always paid. My husband is a very proud man, and to be in this situation kills him, I know. She only makes him feel that much worse and I keep saying, don't kill yourself over it. All you can do is your very best. His daughter is not suffering, she in fact, spends all her time at her grandparent's house because "Cybil" is constantly too busy with her personal needs to care about what's going on with her daughter. She uses their daughter as a social pawn just as much as she uses her for a meal ticket.
When we lived in Buffalo, we had his daughter living with us about 60% of the time minimum, sometimes more, and we spent nowhere near half of what she "spends" on maintaining her comfortable lifestyle. Their daughter had a very nicely furnished bedroom, we took her to amusement places, out to dinner, for ice cream, even to Niagara Falls. I would go out and buy her new outfits and toys, all while attending school so we were a single income household. It is funny to me that "Cybil" makes more than what we had, pays nothing in child support, actually received about $800 from him then, plus made several hundred more from part-time music lessons and still couldn't make ends meet then or now. I'm boggled by this information but yet, here it all sits in legal documents. There is something drastically wrong with this whole scenario but that is our legal system for ya! No use crying over spilled milk. "Cybil" will get her money and life will go on. Well, you know, she'll find something else to cry about, but that in our world, IS life going on.
Onward and upward and shining on!
<3 The Nice Wife
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