It's a Sunday afternoon and my husband and I are hanging out in our room browsing online. I login to my facebook page and see that I have a new message. Opening my message tab, I notice that it is from my ex-husband and assume it is something about our children who are with him for the weekend. But as I begin to read the preview of the message I see that it starts off by saying that your husband's wife is contacting me...I blurt out are you f'ing kidding me right now? And open it up. My husband, alerted by my potty mouth asks what happened. I tell him that his stupid ass ex is now sending messages to my ex. I start reading and my blood pressure and anger immediately starts to rise.
He tells me that she is asking where her husband is? Why he isn't calling her? And how she's going on and on about how horrible he and I both are and how we're crazy. WE are crazy? This is MY ex-husband that you have hunted down and began bothering about someone he has no relationship with at all, nor actually knows on a personal level, but WE are crazy. I apologize to him for her messaging and try to explain how crazy this woman is and how she knows how to contact MY husband and hasn't attempted to do so at all.
Next, I set out on e-mailing her. I have never confronted her before because I had promised my husband that I would stay out of their drama. My only condition was as long as she didn't bring me or anyone personal to me into it. This now gave me the opportunity to say something, he told me to go ahead and I, shaking with anger, began my e-mail. The e-mail below is what I sent. I have taken the names out for privacy and also so she has no reason to sue me for putting her name out there, we all know she would...
"Psycho from Hell",
My ex husband brought it to my attention that you are harassing him about "my husband's" whereabouts. First, I'd like to say that if you need to contact "my husband" about something you can e-mail him or contact someone he knows to get that information. Any important person in his life knows his phone number. You have no reason to snoop around and harass MY ex about things that have nothing to do with him. I find this whole thing to be incredibly childish and juvenile and would expect more from a woman then little games. You know that he has already stated that he just wanted a divorce and nothing to do with you, hence, the reason he no longer calls. Do not involve my ex husband and children in your chaotic mess of a life and please find something better to do then sit around wondering what we're doing and where we are at. Please, do yourself a favor and get over whatever it is you're so pissed about. You didn't want anything to do with him until someone stepped in and showed interest and now you want to sit on your ass and cry about how pathetic your life is. He doesn't want you or anything to do with you, I think he's made that extremely clear so why don't you keep searching for the man of your dreams and let him live his life. Your stalling and petty games aren't working. You just need to leave my ex and anyone that has to do with me out of your issues. A lot of people may sit and let you push them around and entertain your tantrums because you don't always get what you want but I'm not the one.
-Shalisha
My ex husband brought it to my attention that you are harassing him about "my husband's" whereabouts. First, I'd like to say that if you need to contact "my husband" about something you can e-mail him or contact someone he knows to get that information. Any important person in his life knows his phone number. You have no reason to snoop around and harass MY ex about things that have nothing to do with him. I find this whole thing to be incredibly childish and juvenile and would expect more from a woman then little games. You know that he has already stated that he just wanted a divorce and nothing to do with you, hence, the reason he no longer calls. Do not involve my ex husband and children in your chaotic mess of a life and please find something better to do then sit around wondering what we're doing and where we are at. Please, do yourself a favor and get over whatever it is you're so pissed about. You didn't want anything to do with him until someone stepped in and showed interest and now you want to sit on your ass and cry about how pathetic your life is. He doesn't want you or anything to do with you, I think he's made that extremely clear so why don't you keep searching for the man of your dreams and let him live his life. Your stalling and petty games aren't working. You just need to leave my ex and anyone that has to do with me out of your issues. A lot of people may sit and let you push them around and entertain your tantrums because you don't always get what you want but I'm not the one.
-Shalisha
Yes, I was more than a little pissed off by this point if you couldn't tell and it opened up a whole can of worms with name calling and accusations. We then began exchanging words of her telling me she had a right to find out information about the father of her child and how she wanted nothing to do with either one of us and how I needed to get professional help. I fired back with what she was doing was stalking and she did not have the right to harass MY ex-husband about her own personal matters when for one she doesn't know him and two he doesn't know my husband on a personal basis. She continued with her whining about how horrible I was and that she was just trying to raise her daughter which I think is complete crap. If she was raising her daughter she would spend more time with her and less time snooping on my personal life and/or sleeping around with the 5th or 6th boyfriend she has had this year (something that people from her circle are relaying to my husband).
The whole conversation was utterly exhausting mentally as I felt like I was arguing with a child. She ended it with smh (shaking my head) and lmfao (laughing my f'ing ass off) and I didn't feel the need to respond. Now, I'm sitting here shaking my own head and really praying she gets a life.
Onward and upward and shining on!
<3 The Nice Wife
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